The Love Doctor Will See You Now…On Skype
With Valentine’s Day coming up, many people’s thoughts turn to love. That said, love is always on our minds and is, arguably, the greatest human fixation. It has been the subject of countless movies, books, songs, and poems over the years. And, if you believe certain legends, it has also launched a few wars.
Love is a fickle beast and even the strongest romantic relationships require hard work. When love shows its challenging side, it is important to seek the counsel of good friends. Sometimes, however, the support of a professional is needed too.
One such professional is Ferdinand Krieg, a theologian and couples therapist, focused on Systematic and Family Therapy in Berlin, Germany. Ferdinand provides counseling for couples and individuals – both in person and via Skype.
Ferdinand explains, “There are a number of reasons why people can’t make it to my office, whether due to time, distance, work schedules, or more. But with Skype, they need not forgo help.”
He also points out that some couples are nervous to speak about their relationships in front of a therapist or are uncomfortable to be together in the same room with each other while discussing weighty subjects. “Frequently, I find that doing counseling on Skype can help them to overcome those fears,” he says.
Only 33 years old, Ferdinand already has a broad perspective on life and love. In addition to his studies in therapy, philosophy and theology in Germany and India, he worked as a parish pastor in schools. He believes that “warmth, empathy and humor” are essential in how people relate to each other. But, most of all, he put an emphasis on “good communication.”
“Lack of communication is a relationship killer,” he says. “It is not uncommon for me to meet with a couple on Skype who haven’t really spoken in depth with each other for a number of years. Not only do I meet with them on Skype, but I prescribe Skype calls to them – especially if they are in a long distance relationship or spend a lot of time apart.”
Skype helps couples do more than just meet with a therapist or increase the number of times they communicate with each other. It can improve the quality of their communication.
“Skype has the great advantage of showing non-verbal communication such as facial expressions and other body language, which are essential to how a couple relates to each other,” Ferdinand says.
As we celebrate Valentine’s Day, therapists like Ferdinand want you to remember that beyond the flowers, candy, and big red hearts, it’s actually good communication that sustains love over time.
Whether things are great in the love department or if they’ve been better, now’s the time to get in touch with those who are important to you on Skype and let them know you love them.